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Blackberry makes me happy?!

January 10th, 2012

Arelle V. White

A Blackberry phone makes me happy! because through it, my husband and I can send each other messages from anywhere we are in the world when travelling!

Ok, it’s not blackberry that actually makes me happy, it’s my husbands messages of love and care that I receive on it! It’s Instant Messengers let us enjoy unlimited chat, no more P2.50/message that keeps me buying a lot of load, through the BBMax service on Globe, for P599 a month, it’s a big savings for the kind of communicating that we do. One time I spent almost P2000 in load in two weeks using the regular YM service on mobile when travelling! I thank God for technology when it’s used this way!

This is one of the many messages…I like this one particularly because he mentions about prayer and fasting being the way how he received a word from God! about me!

My husbands message last January 7, 2012

(Translation: Listening to Hillsong from the “Inside Out”. 3 Years ago I would listen to a it a lot the same time I met you, When fasted God gave your hand to me. I love you more than words would ever express. I thank the Lord for blessing me with your love. I’m your’s always and forever.! (Of course I replied very lovingly too, acknowledging him as God’s gift to me!)

I received this text on our Day 2 of Prayer and Fasting while at church attending the prayer meeting. I can fully say that our marriage is a product of seeking God’s will through prayer and fasting!

Here is the song Inside Out by Hillsong.

I thank God for blessing me with a wonderful husband who loves the Lord! And because of the love of God, he is able to love me more than I can imagine!

If your husband doesn’t know the Lord, start praying he does come to know the Lord! Why? Because God has a clear instruction to him.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25

To all Christian single women, if you want a genuine Christian man for a husband, be the first to pray and fast asking God to help the man He has for you to find you
If you want to know my story, read on…

In December of 2008, my friends, Ate Janet, Luzette, Zed and I went up the Prayer Mountain in Antipolo to seek God in prayer for our group goal of going to Boracay the following year, January 2009 for a Real Estate project Alta Vista De Boracay by DMCI Homes and Crown Regency Boracay by Fuente Triangle that we want to market. There we lifted up that desire in prayer, and with that was our personal requests to God, too.

In the prayer mountain, I told God that I believe I am ready to start a relationship, and for him to confirm who (if I already know him), or meet who (if I don’t know him yet) He intend for me to start a relationship with.

Before the year 2008 ended, our group took a trip to Cebu, and I had the opportunity to be part of the first batch to ride the Sky Adventure at the Crown regency hotel! And as we like putting our travel photos online, Doug saw a photo of me in a harness in a Christian website and messaged me out of curiosity of what I was doing, to which i simply replied with something like, I was on a Sky adventure in the tallest Hotel in the Philippines.

We started talking more about faith and travelling after that. In January 2009, I informed him of the church doing the annual praying and fasting, to which I am not expecting he would participate, but he did.

During the fast, he believe God spoke to him, and the rest is history… He gave time to know me, and so did I. While getting to know each other, meeting each others family, praying together. I seek God for a confirmation about the destiny of our courtship, if this is His answer to me when I prayed at the mountain? and the Lord did. I had some concerns that I had to lift up to God to give me peace about, and then on one trip from Kalibo to Boracay, I was listening to Joel Osteen’s, Become a Better you on my Ipod (that he gave), I heard the encouragement I needed that served as my confirmation of a “go” from God, and that He is blessing it. Was it all a bed of roses all the way? no, we had serious disagreements having grown from different backgrounds and cultures, but whenever God intervened, it all gets cleared and restored.

He proposed marriage to me in September 2009, and formally asked for my hand in marriage from my mom in January 2010, and got married the same year.

Thank you to my husband for being obedient to God! lol

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3 Ways to have a HOT Communication

March 13th, 2007

Arelle V. White

When you have a fight, and hurt each other, does somebody really win? Is it wise to win the argument but lose the person? Let us try to attack the issue, but not the person, especially if the person you are fighting with means a lot to you!

FIGHT FAIR! Here are 4 TIPS to Successful Fighting that I learned when I went to a Personal Leadership for Unlimited Success Seminar which surely helped improve my relationships.

1. Use a Code – Agree on a Code to use signalling you need to settle an issue (ex. Level UP)

When ever you have an issue, tell the other person that you need to “Level Up” meaning you need to talk about something you want didn’t like and want settled.

Ex. “Let’s have a “Level Up” tonight”
“Mag Level Up tayo mamya ha…”

2. Two Minute Rounds

Take 2 minute turns to say what you want to say. If you called the fight (“Level Up”), be the first to speak and explain your issues in two minutes. Allow the other person to explain his/side for 2 minutes, too, but (really listen while he speaks)

Most often than not, by your third (3rd) round of 2 minute turns, your issues will be settled, and clearly discussed.

3. No Vulgarities. (Walang Bastusan)

Attack the issue not the person. Try not to say curses, or ill words that you will later regret saying… Never attack the person, only the issue, or the behavior but never the person.

Try not to say things like “you are such an idiot..or tanga ka kasi” statements like this is not going to help… Just say, “i didn’t like what you did…..this is how i felt (say if you were insulted, etc.), its okey to talk about your feelings, and attack the act that caused the feeling, not the person who did it.

4. Make Amends

If you are the person who did wrong, make amends, by doing or giving something tangible, something that can be felt or touched to Erase your offense.

Ex.
You came late to your meeting…Offer to treat for coffee or something…

You did not fulfill a promise…give a gift, even simple ones.

3 WAYS to a HOT Communication.

H.O.T! – Honest…Open…Trusting…

To have a HOT Communication is 3 sure ways to strengthen a relationship, whether its for personal or business.

1. Honest, sa tagalog po…Tapat
Tell only the truth, be honest with yourself and others.
Be honest to admit what you feel.
2. Open, sa tagalog po…Bukas Loob at isip
Have an open mind about what the other person has to say, try not
to make assumptions.
3. Trusting, sa tagalog po …Mapagtiwala
Trust that the other person is telling the truth, be the first to start
trusting.

Try using “I PREFER” to a Hotter Relationship…

“I prefer…”

State your preference and enjoy better treatment, instead of telling the other person what he did wrong, simply say what you want…like

“I prefer that you open the car door for me…” (Guys, this is pogi points for you if you do this, women still like being with a gentleman. Even if you have remotes on your car hehe)

“I prefer that you do it this way…”

In tagalog po “Nais ko sana”…”Gusto ko sana…”

“Nais ko sana mag out of town tayo sa summer sa boracay….”
“Nais ko sana, mag sabi ka kung gagabihin ka…”
“Nais ko sana kumain tayo sa labas mamayang gabi…”

Doing the above made life better for me…

The above may seem cliche, but it does work! Try it..