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5 Levels of a Man’s Needs

I honestly didn’t know much about MASLOW’s Hierarchy of Needs until I about three years ago when it was explained indepth in nursing school. And it has become an indispensable guide for nurses.

Let me share it with you.

5 LEVELS of Man’s needs

1. PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS which includes Air, Water, Food, Shelter, Sleep and Sex. In today’s condition, it should be emphasized that people need, “Clean” Air, “Clean” Water, “Clean and Real” Food, “Clean Shelther”, Restful “Sleep” and “Safe” Sex.  To live healthy has truly become more than easy, it takes effort and commitment, not only to ones self but also the environment for everyone and the next generation to have their physiological needs met too.

Physiologic needs means “Basic needs”-  for proper human function. But look at the earth today, trash is a major problem, how can we have clean air? Let’s learn to handle our rubbish correctly, we can put them in the trash cans and not throw anywhere. Water is getting contaminated by spillage, the beaches with water bottles and food wraps. I know it’s not easy going agains Corporate giants involved in big environmental mishaps, but we can at least do what we can to keep our own surrounding clean. Food are being modified to become “instant”/fast foods, which makes people’s lives almost instant too.  There are kids as young as 9 years old dying of kidney failure after two years of dialysis because of junk food. Instead of patronizing processed food, try to go for real food-organic fruits, vegetables and fresh meat. Premarital and multiple sex partners lead to STD’s that break ones body, fragments the soul and crushes the spirit. Try to limit having monogamous relationship and preferably within the bond of marriage.

2.  SAFETY and SECURITY. One needs to have a sense of being in a place and company of people that where one can be comfortable with, unthreatened and protected. We can be the first to offer this to others.

3. LOVE and BELONGINGNESS. One needs to love and be loved, and know that he or she belongs to someone or to a family or group of people who accepts him or her unconditionally. We can share our love to others and welcome them to belong to us, as friends ( even on a social network :-) ), as co-workers, as family members, as churchmates.

4. SELF-ESTEEM. One needs to love one’s self and accept one’s self.  Learn to see your strengths and praise yourself for all the good you see and know you have. Let’s be lavish with our praise to others too.

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5. SELF-ACTUALIZATION. Having Vitality, Creativity, Self-sufficiency, Authenticity, Playfullness and Meaningfulness. Find out if you are a Self-Actualized person and learn how you can be one, in case you’re not yet one.

The graph below best illustrates the order of importance  from Bottom Up.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

If an individuals needs in this hierarchy aren’t met, there can be issues or sources of stress that could take place in a person and may lead to sickness, physical or even mental condition that should be addressed.

We can help each other make our lives better.

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I love you Daddy!

I want to honor my Dad and greet him Happy Father’s day!
I know this greeting is long overdue (online), but i did of course
last June 21, 2009.

We can choose the friends we want to have but it’s God who chooses
who our parents will be. I am thankful for the father He chose for me.
Tito Robles Valla
My Dad, Tito Robles Valla passed away May of 2006, I will remember him to be a good man and father who always made time for us, available for questions we may have in school or just about anything, he allocated time to take us to dinners outside, bring us to the Carnival, go jogging with us, bring us out of town for swimming and fun almost every weekend.  He did what he could to reach out to us and level with us by playing with us as kids to establish and grow our relationship.  He knew how to make us laugh with his funny stories too.

My dad was a very good provider. Not only did he made sure we were provided with the basics in life despite our not being rich but he also gave what he knew we desired that were reasonable. Most often than not, i never really had to request, he would just surprise me and my siblings with what he hears or see us wishing for, and we grew up enjoying the so called “pasalubong” take home gifts (just small things like candies, or cheap toys).  Being the eldest daughter, he tags me along with him a lot, when he sees me looking at an item for a long time like i really wanted it, he would just buy it for me, like a dress, a shirt or a shoes. One time we was at a sport store, he saw my eyes fixed on some skates while he was buying a basket ball then after a few days, he just surprised me with it. He then would drive me and my family to the skating rink several times a week so I could learn and enjoy it.  We also had so many nights going to Luneta in Rizal Park
to just run around and slide.

But more than things, what he gave most  as expression of his love is providing guidance, advices and most of all prayer. Up to his very last breath, my dad was putting his hand on me and blessing me. He prayed for me to have a secured future, live my dreams and to have a  christian & loving husband who will take care of me because he no longer can’t and for me to live my purpose and destiny in Christ.

My dad is not perfect, but all the good that my father did outweighs any thing he may have done less.

After retiring from work, he went to a Bible school and studied Pastoral at Four Square Bible College.  He then served at Christ Green Pasture Ministries as one of the Pastors. For any verse i needed to find, he always assisted me and explained to me when i needed.  At his wake, its awesome to see and hear people speak of how my dad touched did their lives.
I will never forget the day he passed away because I was holding him, but most of all I will always remember many memories of love and laughter with him.

2006

We love you very much Daddy!

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TOP 10 WISH for 2009

1.Join the Annual 7 Day prayer and fasting at church which I have been joining for the past few years. It has always been a great experience to have time and intimacy with God this way, to be able to read the word like it’s my daily bread. To enjoy praise and worship and learning more about God and knowing him. To consecrate myself and be filled with the Holy Spirit. I know how much I need God, if I just do things on my own, I know I can get really screwed, but with God, I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

2. I wish to have a small group bible study and attend my leadership group regularly. It’s been a long while since I did a one-to-one sharing of the Word and hope to get it restored again.

3. To pass the Local board exams both local and US state board, the NCLEX and Ielts.

4. My businesses would grow more. More Bookings for BoracayStations, Inc. More real estate sales for WowIslands, Inc. and beach lots sold for Logicorp, Inc.

5.Travel with Family. More time to travel with my Mom and siblings. We have scheduled trip to Asia this 1st Quarter, and hopefully to the US and CANADA as a family for holiday come the ber months, last quarter.

6. To be able to serve more and give to Charity, we started Help Kalibo last year and hope to continue helping.

7.I wish to be back to 115 lbs. Have a stronger core and toned muscles. Eat more fruits and veggies and be more active and stress free, a lot of salon and Spa Time.

8. Have a new car. Replace my stick shift Lancer to automatic, I like the new Mitsubishi Lancer 2009, Maroon.

9. Have more time to date and grow a relationship.

10. I wish for the Philippine economy to grow, and peace in all the islands.

Top 5 Things i want to thank God for

 

Five things I thank God for.

1.       Salvation.  I thank God for sending his son Jesus to die for me. That’s my faith declaration right there. I thank God for giving me the opportunity to know him more through His word.

2.       My Family. I am truly blessed to have a wonderful family and for being raised in a loving home. We didn’t have a lot of material things showered us but love was surely in abundance in our family. I love you Mommy, Kuya & Ate Jane, Jaepher n Chrysha, Justin & Chai and Ming. Ate Madel and Rene, too.

3.       My Spiritual Family. I really enjoy my church Victory Christian Fellowship and my small group led by Ate Cel Carodan, where im growing in the knowledge of God.

4.       My businesses. I’m grateful to God for the clients He has brought my way, and grateful for the services and products I could provide them. It has allowed me to have things in my life for my needs and enjoyment, and some travel. Thanks to all my business partners and clients. I thank God for Nursing School too.

5.       My closest relatives and friends. They have all brought wonderful memories to me and my family.

I have so much more to thank God for, just sharing my top 5. What would you like to thank God for?

 

A very good principle and excellent reminder

Be Honest!
Even others are not.
Even other will not.
Even others can not.

He who walks honestly, walks securely. – Proverbs 10:9
A message from the Brotherhood of Christian Businessmen & Professionals.

A very good principle Aklanons live by. And an excellent reminder to everyone of how we should be.
Keep it Up BCBP!!!

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Have you watched The Secret?

“Thoughts become things!” …these three words struct me as i watch the full length The Secret!

What we always think about, we attract!  It’s the Law of Attraction! Our mind is like a magnet, what ever is on our mind, we are attracting to ourselves. Good or bad, we attract it.  What is on your mind? When you keep thinking about debt, then all the more you get in debt..when you keep thinking about poverty, the more you become poor…Why not think about making money, and become rich!…think about having a great relationship with your loved ones, and see it happen.

 The above are what i learned recently, and i believe its biblically sound too… The word of God says, think of what is noble, what is pure, whatever is praiseworthy, think about such things…Imagine how nice the world would be if we thought this way.

Discover the Secret…see the first 20 minutes of the film!!! I highly recommend that you watch it. Enjoy

Boracay, TOP 7 BEACH in the WORLD

Be proud Kababayans, BORACAY made it to the TOP BEACHES in the WORLD, we are no.7, and the ONLY ASIAN Country in the LIST, isn’t that fantastic?

Best Beaches
1. Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
2. Miami, Florida
3. Cancun, Mexico
4. Kaanapali, Hawaii
5. Honolulu, Hawaii
6. San Diego, California
7. Boracay Island, Philippines
8. Key West, Florida
9. Sydney, Australia
10. Santa Barbara, California

Yahoo further says, 

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White Beach, Boracay’s biggest tourist attraction, stretches some four kilometers on the western side of the island, mostly within the barangay of Balabag. It is largely because of the pristine, white powdery sand of White Beach and the crystal-clear blue water of the surrounding sea that Boracay is often called “the world’s most beautiful tropical island.” read full story here

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We are TOP 7 Best BEACH, and the WORLD’s MOST Beautiful TROPICAL ISLAND! Wow Islands!!!

The Philippines is truly a haven for tourists, and a sought after vacation destination. Did you know that you can own a property in Boracay? The Biggest Boracay Condotel Development is being built right now, its called ALTA VISTA DE BORACAY, it will have 504 Luxurious Units, a studio and Loft. Be among the 504 privileged individuals to own a place in Boracay.

It is being developed by DMCI, the only Triple A Contractor developer who also built Shangrila Hotel in Makati and that of Mactan Cebu, also The Westin Philippine Plaza among others, that’s why you are assured that Alta Vista De Boracay is an excellent project. It will be ready for Occupancy by December 2007.

You don’t have to worry that you can’t maximize your investment if you buy or you can’t live there and no one will take care of your unit, because DMCI is commissioning a HOTEL Operator that will manage and market Alta Vista. You can have the Hotel Operator lease your unit while you are away, and of course you make money out of it.

Read full details of Alta Vista De Boracay and the potential income or return on investment.

Well, I am so proud that the Philippines is among the TOP of something very good. My family and I love going to Boracay year after year, we can’t get enough of it, This October 1 to 5, we are going to be there. See you!!!

Mabuhay!!!

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3 Expressions of Love

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Love is probably the most important thing in the world. Many would die for it and give up everything for it, including tons of money.

In fact the most written about lyrics is on Love. Like the song “What’s love got to do with it?” Well, let us just say that we are created to connect with other people and enjoy love.

Let me share with you what I learned about love from life, other people and from church.

There are 3 Expressions of Love, the first two being conditional and the best is the third because it is unconditional.
1. I love you IF
2. I love you Because
3. I love you.

The first is something like,
“i love you if you buy me…
“i love you if you do this…
“i love you if you win…
The second is something like
“i love you because you treat me well…
“i love you because you bought me….
“i love you because you won the game…
Good but not good enough, i wonder if that is really love after all.

The 3rd is, “I love you!” i love you, period…just unconditional love. I would say that this is the kind of love i have enjoyed in my family and I am so blessed to have grown in a loving home with wonderful parents and siblings.

I also know that not everyone is as fortunate as me. If you grew up not feeling loved, or you grew up with out a father or mother, let me tell you something, there is one who loves you unconditionally, it is Jesus. He died for us, he came that we might have life and live it abundantly. God want us to enjoy a loving relationship with him, but you have to receive that offer of love to fully experience it.

Receive the reality that God loves you. He loves you no matter what you have done in the past.

The kind of love God has for you is unconditional and let me tell you 3 Perspectives of Love.

1. Love is a DECISION. It is not a feeling, feelings are very inconsistent. My parents and family members as well as me just decided to love each other. Yes we also do have our disagreements, discussions and share of disappointing things we unintentionally do or not to each other but still we know there is love.

God also decided to love you and me that’s why he sent his son Jesus for us. Our sins have separated us from our God, and his son is bridging that separation right now. He demonstrated that love when Jesus died on the cross in our place.

Have you decided to love? Who did you decide to love? Would you like to have more of God’s love?

2. Love is about GIVING not GETTING. When we love, we don’t mind giving our Time, our Money and everything else.

We are not rich, but i was certain even as a young child back then that I had a generous family. It was normal to share things, give to each other in the home and to people outside my home.

God was the first to give too, he gave us himself and a plan. The word of God says, for I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. God is willing to keep on giving, what have you not claimed yet?

What are you giving the people you love?

3.Love is SACRIFICING not SELF-SEEKING. Love is doing something without expecting anything in return and is focused on pleasing the other person. This is the kind of love God has for you and me. Want to know more of Jesus’ sacrifices for you?

What are you willing to sacrifice for your loved one?

I have been experiencing the kind of Love God has for you and me. I am truly grateful.

If you want to know more about Jesus and his plan for you, I am most willing to share with you more about it. You may reach me via email at arellevalla [at] gmail [.]com

There is an emptiness in our hearts that only God can fill…if you have been feeling empty inside despite all the success, or if you are feeling down and lonely, not feeling loved or abandoned, then it is no coincidence that you went this far to reading this. God has a destiny for your life. He wants to have a relationship with you and show you how much he loves you.

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3 Ways to have a HOT Communication

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When you have a fight, and hurt each other, does somebody really win? Is it wise to win the argument but lose the person? Let us try to attack the issue, but not the person, especially if the person you are fighting with means a lot to you!

FIGHT FAIR! Here are 4 TIPS to Successful Fighting that I learned when I went to a Personal Leadership for Unlimited Success Seminar which surely helped improve my relationships.

1. Use a Code – Agree on a Code to use signalling you need to settle an issue (ex. Level UP)

When ever you have an issue, tell the other person that you need to “Level Up” meaning you need to talk about something you want didn’t like and want settled.

Ex. “Let’s have a “Level Up” tonight”
“Mag Level Up tayo mamya ha…”

2. Two Minute Rounds

Take 2 minute turns to say what you want to say. If you called the fight (“Level Up”), be the first to speak and explain your issues in two minutes. Allow the other person to explain his/side for 2 minutes, too, but (really listen while he speaks)

Most often than not, by your third (3rd) round of 2 minute turns, your issues will be settled, and clearly discussed.

3. No Vulgarities. (Walang Bastusan)

Attack the issue not the person. Try not to say curses, or ill words that you will later regret saying… Never attack the person, only the issue, or the behavior but never the person.

Try not to say things like “you are such an idiot..or tanga ka kasi” statements like this is not going to help… Just say, “i didn’t like what you did…..this is how i felt (say if you were insulted, etc.), its okey to talk about your feelings, and attack the act that caused the feeling, not the person who did it.

4. Make Amends

If you are the person who did wrong, make amends, by doing or giving something tangible, something that can be felt or touched to Erase your offense.

Ex.
You came late to your meeting…Offer to treat for coffee or something…

You did not fulfill a promise…give a gift, even simple ones.

3 WAYS to a HOT Communication.

H.O.T! – Honest…Open…Trusting

To have a HOT Communication is 3 sure ways to strengthen a relationship, whether its for personal or business.

1. Honest, sa tagalog po…Tapat
Tell only the truth, be honest with yourself and others.
Be honest to admit what you feel.
2. Open, sa tagalog po…Bukas Loob at isip
Have an open mind about what the other person has to say, try not
to make assumptions.
3. Trusting, sa tagalog po …Mapagtiwala
Trust that the other person is telling the truth, be the first to start
trusting.

Try using “I PREFER” to a Hotter Relationship…

“I prefer…”

State your preference and enjoy better treatment, instead of telling the other person what he did wrong, simply say what you want…like

“I prefer that you open the car door for me…” (Guys, this is pogi points for you if you do this, women still like being with a gentleman. Even if you have remotes on your car hehe)

“I prefer that you do it this way…”

In tagalog po “Nais ko sana”…”Gusto ko sana…”

“Nais ko sana mag out of town tayo sa summer sa boracay….”
“Nais ko sana, mag sabi ka kung gagabihin ka…”
“Nais ko sana kumain tayo sa labas mamayang gabi…”

Doing the above made life better for me…

The above may seem cliche, but it does work! Try it..

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